Orgasms improve health, why don't we have more?

Gwyneth Paltrow’s Netflix series GOOP follows her lifestyle brand on holistic wild wellness adventures. It totally spoke to me, covering different experiences like Magic Mushroom retreats, cryotherapy, and energy healing.

I was particularly surprised by the episode on sexual pleasure “Sex for One” because there’s actual businesses that teach women how to orgasm.

Only 25 percent of women are orgasmic during vaginal intercourse. Sexual frequency also decreases with age for women.

Having orgasms regularly is good for physical and psychological health. Orgasms are huge “bliss bombs” for our mind/body. Our system gets flooded with “feel good” hormones like Oxytocin (the love hormone) and endorphins. When released, they strengthen emotional bonds and reduce pain. According to a study by Beverly Whipple, professor emeritus at Rutgers University and a famed sexologist and author, when women have an orgasm, pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increases significantly, by up to 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively. Let’s not forget that having sex is a great aerobic exercise which is good for the heart and blood circulation.

Even though there are tremendous health benefits with orgasms, many women struggle to have sex because of a decrease in libido. Women are too exhausted from long days at the office, running around with kids, and managing the home. Then there’s the whole other element of stress!

Stress can take shape in many forms which can have an adverse affect libido. When we’re under stress, the body goes into survival mode and the mind is on constant alert. Under stress muscles tense up, digestion, metabolism, immunity, and sex drive weaken. It may seem counterintuitive to have sex when we’re anxious, tired, or in pain…...but that’s exactly the best time! Think about the alternatives. Under stress, it’s easy to turn to food or alcohol to find relief. Instead of reaching for cookies, try reaching for a vibrator, lol! Suddenly the craving for cookies disappears and saves the waistline. Having an orgasm is just as healthy for the mind, body, and spirit as going for a walk, taking a dance class, or eating vegetables.

Here are 4 hidden stressors that could be stealing mojo and libido!

Body Judgement

When I first started learning about eating psychology, I was given an analogy about stress and judgement. Imagine you are trapped in a room with someone who judges and bullies you all the time. You’re stuck with this person morning, noon, and night for a life sentence. All they do is say mean hurtful things about your body. How would you feel? What would you do? It’s depressing and stressful. Women tend to be very critical of their body’s. It’s hard to feel sexy and sensual, if that negative bully voice in your head is saying “Your stomach is too fat, you should be ashamed of yourself for being naked.” Start paying attention to that inner dialogue in your head that criticizes your body. Those thoughts could be stealing your right to healthy orgasms.


Menopause is a part of life that almost every woman experiences. Anxiety and stress can result from lower levels of estrogen and progesterone. Women are also faced with different worries around this time including children leaving home, getting older, and losing relatives. Worrying elevates the stress hormone cortisol which stores fat around the stomach area. The body changes and an active restless mind can do more damage than good. Hormone changes can affect libido so try YIN Yoga to feel balanced again. Click HERE to try this yoga practice at home. Women experiencing menopause can experience relief from many of the symptoms through relaxation techniques like YIN Yoga and…….having more orgasms.


It’s no secret that things can happen to couples over time. Tension, conflict, pressure, and stress can all arise as relationships are a vehicle for change. We can be tested by our partners where our deepest fears are triggered. There’s healing and transformation when these challenges are overcome. The problem is when we hold onto resentment, anger, blame, shame, or fear toward our spouse. Not only do we lose physical attraction for them, it’s difficult to just even be around them. Therapy can help and it’s worth exploring.


Every single hour appears to be booked with something to do. There’s a lot of pressure to succeed in our careers as well as be the perfect mom. Who has time for sex? Make date nights a priority whether they’re with a partner or yourself. Just like we prioritize our physical health by going to the gym, our sexual health deserves just as much attention. Get creative and have fun so it’s something you look forward to. Take a hot bath, light some candles, and play some sultry music.

It’s also perfectly normal to use tools and toys. Goop on Netflix had some interesting products and methods. There’s also Cannabis that can help with arousal or even ease vaginal pain. Cannabis products like Foria are specifically designed for female sexual pleasure including suppositories and lubricants. Using a Cannabis lubricant can take a little experimenting. Some of these products can take anywhere from 5-20 minutes to notice an effect. That’s just more time for foreplay! Using Cannabis on the skin will not make you feel “high.” Instead, the feeling is more in the body. However, "getting high" before sex could be extremely fun. Just like a glass of wine, a 2-5 mg gummy can help provide a similar relaxation or arousal. Check out Cannabis “wine” by Rebel Coast that has no alcohol and is low calorie. It’s something fun to share on Valentine’s Day! (Rebel Coast Reviews Sativa and Indica)

If you’re interested in exploring how Cannabis can help you with your health and happiness, then let’s connect! Click HERE to book a free discovery session to find out if Cannabis can help you!

Note: The information in this article is intended for your educational use only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition and before undertaking any diet, supplement, fitness, or other health program.

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